There was a woman who asked on a single Christian Facebook thread if anyone knew how to battle rejection. I deal with the spirit of rejection in my novel, The Shattered Vase. However, it is much easier to deal with the horror of rejection in a fictional novel than to battle this evil in real life. I believe there are many seeds which can grown into the monstrosity of rejection.
One of those seeds is comparison.
As a little girl when my mother would get exasperated with me she would ask me, “Why can’t you be more like your sister?”
The simple fact was because I was NOT my sister. If I was, I wouldn’t have ever written a novel like The Shattered Vase.
The other fact was that my sister was twelve years older than me. It is a bit hard to be a young adult when you are just a toddler.
However, secretly I many times wondered the same thing. Why was I not more like my sister because I absolutely adored her as a little girl.https://www.theshatteredvase.com/index.php/2019/07/20/a-pelican-wishing-to-be-a-sailboat/
As I was reading through the Bible the other day I happened upon a verse which attacked comparison straight on.
“Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.”
The problem with comparison is that someone is always “less than”. That is not a good place to be in any situation.
In this day and age it is so easy to compare ourselves to others. Especially if you are a Facebook fan. People commonly post their perfect pictures on Facebook. It can be a very deceptive platform for reality.
I watched American Murder on Netflix.
Shannan Watts was a woman who looked like she had everything. She was always taking videos of her precious girls and posting about what a wonderful husband she had. Her home was immaculate. She seemed to come from a lovely family and had a good set of friends.
She did indeed look like she was living the white picket fence fantasy until her husband killed her and their two girls.
As I was watching the documentary I was a bit envious of her immaculate home. When I was raising my children, immaculate was never a word that could be used to describe my home. My home was full of life and sadly Shannan’s became a home full of death.
FACEBOOK is a wonderful platform for connecting.
It can also be an insidious platform for the evil of comparison. I don’t get on Facebook that much but if I do and I start rejecting myself because I don’t seem to measure up to some of my friends I shut it down immediately.
It is wise to identify how the devil can undermine the beautiful creation that God created when he formed you. Rejection is one of his foremost tools. When you have been rejected as a child it is your choice as to whether or not you allow that to enter your consciousness as an adult.
In my novel, The Shattered Vase, Suzie is rejected by her mother, Barbara. The rejection is so horrid it leads her to the brink of suicide. You would think that God would want to protect her from her mother from this point on wouldn’t you? Estrangement and walking away from toxic relationships is what most contemporary psychologists would recommend.
However, in The Shattered Vase there is another path which beckons to Suzie. She is led by the Holy Spirit to do something which takes great courage and strength to do. Suzie chooses to follow this lead and extend love to her mother instead of hate or estrangement.
To learn more about how to overcome evil I invite you to purchase The Shattered Vase by clicking on the following link.https://www.amazon.com/Shattered-Vase-Battle-Life-Book-ebook/dp/B07KRNQ6NW
Have you experienced comparison or rejection in your life? If so, how have you overcome the obstacle which was meant to defeat you?